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Good Questions: Holiday Card Dilemma

card121008.jpgKaren has a dilemma: It's holiday card time and I find myself with a dilemma. As you can see, our card is decidedly Christmas-centric. I need to make a card to send to Jewish friends and family. Here's my conundrum: I'd like to include a picture of my baby since these are friends and family who are far away and have not yet met her. Is it weird to make a Hanukkah card with a picture of non-Jewish baby?

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Would it be better to just make/buy a simple card sans photo? Or is this just a weird question to begin with?

Please share your thoughts with Karen in the comments below...thanks!

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I think it would be fine to send the same card, but if you personalize a message to them saying "Happy Hanukkah" or "Happy Holidays". I send the same card to my Jewish friends as my Catholic friends, and vice versa.

posted by kpag on December 10th 2008 at 1:46pm
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I don't think it's a weird question, but I also dont think that any of your jewish friends are going to be offended by a card that says merry christmas.... You could also print up some (blue) Happy Hannukah's & stick em on the card as well.... (w/glue dots).

But this is really an adorable card, any of your friends would enjoy receiving it!

posted by roxtarchic on December 10th 2008 at 1:50pm
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I don't think you need to do a second set of cards. A personalized message, such as Happy Holidays...in addition to the adorable Xmas card is lovely. Even though we don't celebrate Christmas spiritually, we still enjoy all of the festivities and accoutrements the holiday has to offer.

posted by sabrina210 on December 10th 2008 at 2:19pm
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Most people i know send Happy Holiday cards, instead of Christmas or Chanukah specific. But since you already did your card as Merry Christmas, I think you should either just send the same card to your Jewish friends with a personal note about Happy Chanukah, or send out a Happy Holidays card to your Jewish friends with a picture of your baby. It doesn't matter that your baby isn't Jewish. But I don't think you should send out a formal Happy Chanukah card. I am Jewish and I would think a formal, printed Happy Chanukah card (like a Chanukah version of your Christmas card) from a non-Jewish friend would seem a bit weird. But a note on a holiday or Christmas card wishing me a happy Chanukah would seem normal. But honestly, no matter what you sent me, i wouldn't be offended.

posted by elanaw on December 10th 2008 at 2:37pm
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OK, I have to know -- is that Daisy or Julio and if it is Daisy, where's Julio (and vice versa)?

Oh, and since you (and your baby) celebrate Christmas, I think the "Merry Christmas" card is fine, but I agree with a handwritten Chanukah greeting to those who you are certain celebrate the Jewish holiday. It's more about the reaching out and sending well wishes (and pictures of cute kids are always welcome).

posted by robyn on December 10th 2008 at 4:35pm
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I am Jewish and I think your card is not only adorable but absolutely appropriate. The message already says "Happy Holidays."

posted by kitjule on December 10th 2008 at 5:43pm
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hi there, what a cute card. i'm jewish and i love receiving cards for any holiday. i often send Chanukah cards to non-jews. i think anyone that was miffed about getting a card as adorable as this probably isnt worth sending a card too.

posted by Hamro on December 10th 2008 at 6:57pm
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How about go French and send a New Year's card? That's what we do--also keeps me feeling less pressured because as long as it is out by the end of January, I figure I'm on time. Heh.

posted by La Rêveuse on December 10th 2008 at 10:40pm
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Cute card. Next year, split the difference and go Kwanzaa.

posted by bakerboy on December 10th 2008 at 10:41pm
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A Hannukah card with a picture of a non-Jewish baby is no weirder than a Christmas card with a picture of Jesus, a Jewish baby.

posted by suzyblu on December 11th 2008 at 12:50pm
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Thanks for all the comments and suggestions, everyone. You're all very helpful, and of course I loved the compliments about the card and the baby. To answer the question, the baby is Daisy. Julio is our dog who I'm pretty sure is celebrating the fact that this is the first Christmas I'm not dressing him in antlers or a hat and putting him in front of the camera.

posted by ksg on December 11th 2008 at 7:44pm
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Buy memorah stamps to mail it out. :) I am jewish and wouldn't be offended at all [but I have major x-mas envy this year]. Sometimes it does get annoying to be inundated with tons of x-mas and no channukah. Kids can get especially upset by this. Your card is super cute and a great idea for being unable to select an image.
Cheers!

posted by Hayley on December 11th 2008 at 7:49pm
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I do a generic season's greetings card for that reason. But my son has been known to wear a Santa hat in the photo.

Cute card! If you think someone might be offended, just send them a separate card.

posted by Lacey_M on December 11th 2008 at 10:17pm
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Don't be generic. If you are Christian say Merry Christmas. If you are Jewish say Happy Hanukkah. Would you be offended if you received a cute card with a baby that read Happy Hanukkah? Didn't think so.

posted by cvq on December 14th 2008 at 8:45am
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